NOT For Your Consideration
by Mark Phillips


With the birth of a child, so much is gained, but some is lost. Gained is the immeasurable joy that comes from watching a little person grow and learn and become something great. Lost is a certain degree of freedom, a level of sanity (that youll find you can live without), and the ability to go to the bathroom without someone watching.
When the child arrives, someone will have to take care of it. Many couples make the choice to have one of them be that caregiver all day. But then, which one? This decision used to be easy. The answer was Mom. Nowadays, there are more and more Dads who take up the reins of Homemaking. It turns out that some men are better at being the Primary Parent than some women. Go figure.
There are lots of variables to consider when approaching this momentous moment in a familys life. (See What the Primary Parent Needs and Men Make Better Housewives.) There are also things that do not need to be considered. If too much time is spent dwelling on these areas, really important stuff might be put off until the kid is out and running and the decision is made on the fly. Bad idea.
The single most important thing to ignore is what anyone else thinks. If Mom and Dad decide that Dad is the best Primary Parent for little Junior, no one elses opinion matters. No one is a big word. It includes each person you know, each person you dont know, each member of your immediate family and those you only see at funerals and weddings. It comprises the ladies at the grocery store who look at you like you are a freak and the guys on the softball team who call you a hen-pecked wus. It includes your father, your big brother, and your wifes boss. It includes your pastor and the old biddies who think its a sin that your poor child doesnt have a right proper mother, like he should.
To put this into perspective, who better than you is suited to be YOUR childs daily caregiver? Who more than you has to live with your decision, good or bad? Who has taken on this great responsibility to raise YOUR child? The biddies? Nope. Its you.
Someone might ask, What does Dad know about raising babies?
One answer might be, Moms pretty new at it, too. I guess well both have to read the books.
But men arent created to be nurturing and sensitive and patient.
I am. Oh, by the way. The library called, You can pick up your copy of 'Neanderthal Man Today' magazine any time.
When your little girl has her firstyou knowwomans time, what are you going to do?
There are lots of options: Call her aunt, call her grandma, put her in the tub until Mom comes home. Piece of cake.
So, spend no time worryingor even consideringhow the opinions of others will be affected by your decision. If they want to stick their noses into your family arrangement, give them a clean diaper and a box of wipes and tell them to make themselves useful.
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