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Men & Martha Burk--More than About Golf

by Archie Wortham    --show me more like this

"The tournament is more than a golf match—it is a large corporate party, liquor and entertainment flows freely through the week." Martha Burk, chair of the National Council for Women's Organization stated, emphasizing that the Masters tournament should not be played if the nation is at war.

To that I cry foul! Or rather fore! Where does she get off? How does she know what this tournament is, or is she just another among the many who think that all men can do when they get together is carouse freely, partying as the liquor flows? Suppose that does occur? Why isn't it okay for men, when they get together, to let off a little steam without a Simon Legree overseer watching and complaining along the way.

I love my wife. I'm more of a gentleman than some members of Ms. Burk's organization might like. But give it a rest. Or rather, give us our rest, for a daily break. Women have their organizations. Many women seem threatened when a man wants to be a kindergarten teacher. Many of them swoon that any man would dare be an at-home dad. Even more women offer more than just a snide remark at men nurses, fashion designers, or any other occupation that is traditionally feminine. Yet these women see a private ‘men's only' club as something they must tear down. And some come fully equipped as though Reagan himself had armed them. Their placards and slogans are provocative. But why can't they give us some room?

I've thought long and hard about this issue. Many things simply boil down to principles. Morally and ethically. What's wrong with a club where men can go and be men? What's wrong with a club that promotes male bonding in a way that Oprah, reality shows, and child-care classes don't. Indeed the Masters is more than a golf match, it's a tradition. Something that America has few and fewer of. And the numbers are dwindling.

Men have fewer and fewer legacies to pass to their sons, because more and more elitists are attempting to abrogate the ideas that men have feelings, and have rights: to our own club; our own conversations; and our own lives without women intruding all the time.

Men have been the dominant force in our society for centuries. But things have changed. Some religious organization finally allowed women into the pulpit. Medical professions, colleges and universities did the same things. Was that wrong? I don't think it was wrong, when you consider all the wonderful scientists, scholars and physicians the world has been blessed by this wonderful intrusion.

My own life is a perfect example, I am a better parent because of where my wife pushes me, but even she knows there are some things sacred. The bonding of a good male friendship that best happens when she's not around. The glow on our sons' faces when they've played all day with some of their friends, or did something with just their dad. These are images that our society is also built upon. For Burk to counter this argument with something sexist is appalling, debilitating and wrong.

I don't know about you, or what your values and beliefs are about all the injuries men have poured into the lives of women. I don't know how you feel about the entire equality issues as it pertains to races, religions, or the sexes. But if you don't think you deserve personal bits of freedom here and there, then who were you fighting for when you fought for women getting the right to vote?

Who were you fighting for when you fought for desegregation in our schools? And who do you think the framers of our constitution had in mind when they carved the words ‘certain inalienable rights?' Leaving the Masters as it, I see, as part of that interpretation. It's about time some one listens to what American feared in the 40s, men who won't be men, because women won't let them be.

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