The Bad Touch
Afraid of Intimacy
I am 18 and unable to experience any pleasure from another person touching me.
When I was about seven a woman came to our school and told us about "the bad touch." She said that it felt "yucky" to have someone touch you intimately. That never happened to me, but I was always afraid someone might do that and the fear has never gone away.
After growing up with this fear, how can I make it go away? Did that woman ever stop to think what she was doing to me?
What am I supposed to do now?
-- Mashed in Massachusetts

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Dear Mashed,
You need to find a therapist, but be certain from the start that the therapist is willing to accept the validity of your experience.
Some young adults whose sexual feelings are directed at children have reported such programs as being the origin of their aversion to intimate contact with adults. If this is true, it would be particularly ironic to find that the long-term effect of such programs is the opposite of what was intended.
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