Promoting Your Child's Balanced Development
Giving your children the opportunity to develop a special talent can provide them with a sense of their uniqueness and be a healthy enhancement to their self esteem. By Gerald Alpern.
I am 18 and unable to experience any pleasure from another person touching me.
When I was about seven a woman came to our school and told us about "the bad touch." She said that it felt "yucky" to have someone touch you intimately. That never happened to me, but I was always afraid someone might do that and the fear has never gone away.
After growing up with this fear, how can I make it go away? Did that woman ever stop to think what she was doing to me?
What am I supposed to do now?
-- Mashed in Massachusetts
These programs were begun in the 1980s as a misguided attempt to prevent child abuse. If successful, people learn from an early age to fear and avoid sexual touching with adults. This early training lasts a lifetime. The result: Adults whose sexual feelings are directed at children, with some reporting such programs as being the origin of their aversion to intimate contact with adults.