by Paul Goetz
The nation seems to be accumulating more and more of two distinctly
related types of people, organizations, and agencies:
- one, disgruntled parents, many of whom have joined some sort of organization in an effort to help them with their grievances, and also many who have just vanished, or self destructed;
- and two, organizations and agencies, both governmental and private, with a distinct symbiosis, aligned against the first group.
I've heard both sides present their positions in various forums,
and the positions never seem to change over the years. Each side just
seems to get bigger and bigger and bigger. One of the things I've noticed
when talking with others, or just listening or reading, is that, when
discussing one of the issues, most seem to have gotten caught up in the
rhetoric that has been essentially forced on them by the government and the
media. And all the discourse is limited by using the rhetorical labels,
such as "custodial parent," "non-custodial parent," "child support,"
"obliger," "absent parent," "visitation," "custody," etc. etc. etc.
Over the years, in all sorts of court cases, articulate judges have
developed a way of distinguishing between the substance of something (such
as a particular law) and what it says that it is - sometimes referred to as
the difference between substance and form.
It seems to me that if one can get rid of all the labels and
the built in implications of each, one gets a different perspective of the
situation, and more at the heart of the substance of the issues. When
viewing the situation as freely as possible
from all the constraints of the labels, it appears quite clearly that the
created two distinct classifications of parents. (By "parent," for
simplicity and for the
sake of this article, I'm referring to the biological parents, whether they
are married, divorced, separated, or never married, and with no distinction
as to male or female.)
Starting from a financial perspective one finds:
- CLASS I - those parents who are free to provide for their children
whatever amount of financial support they choose, in whatever form they
chose - they are not obligated by the government (other than their implied
natural obligation to provide necessities) to provide any particular
specified amount of money, whether it be weekly, monthly, annually, or
- CLASS II - those parents who are mandated by the government (by
some sort of official looking court order) to pay a specified amount of
money on a regular basis to some other person or organization allegedly in
support of their children - in other words they have been stripped of the
various freedoms and liberties and all related aspects allowed those in
The two classes are not naturally occurring. They are a sole
creation of the government - usually as a result of one of a child's
parents using the power of the government to force the other parent into
CLASS II. (The one parent then remains a CLASS I parent, and
simultaneously gains numerous varied benefits that they did not otherwise
possess, including various forms of governmental aid and assistance not
available to the CLASS II parent.)
The disgruntled parents to whom I referred at the outset are mostly
members of CLASS II. Some are divorced, some are separated, some were
never married, and some didn't even know they were a parent until their
child was getting older. (And there is also a growing number of supporters
of the CLASS II members, such as a new
spouse.) But most didn't volunteer to be put into CLASS II. Many
(although certainly not all) would gladly continue to live a productive
life as a conscientious CLASS I parent.
In many instances, however, they were not presented with any
alternative to being transformed into a CLASS II parent by either their own
lawyer, or the government. They were not told that it would be extremely
costly (often costing far more money than they even had) to try to remain a
CLASS I parent, nor they were told that no matter how much money they spent
the government would probably still force them into CLASS II status. Many spent a substantial sum of money in legal fees that could have been used to support their children, yet were still forced into CLASS II status. Many just submitted to a larger force they had no money to fight, or knew they
There are some parents who, given a choice, and explained all the
ramifications, might prefer to be a CLASS II parent, just as there are some
parents who, no matter what class they are in, are not good parents. But
there are many who don't like CLASS II. For them, being forced into CLASS
II status is humiliating and demeaning enough all in itself. It is
dehumanizing, and it signifies loss of freedom, loss of liberty, loss of
control. Buying their children a new bicycle or a pair of shoes, or simply
feeding them does not count as "support" for most CLASS II parents.
Maintaining a motor vehicle and driving their children to soccer or
gymnastics practice does not count as "support" for most CLASS II parents.
However, it just continues to get worse. After the government has
forced a parent into CLASS II it then passes Special Laws that only apply
to the parents that it has forced into CLASS II:
- Do all parents face revocation of their driver's license if they do not provide a particular amount of financial support for their children ?? - NO,
only CLASS II parents.
- Do all citizens face revocation of their driver's license over
an issue that
is totally unrelated to their ability to operate a motor vehicle
safety in general? NO, only CLASS II parents.
- Do all parents face forced periodic review by government
agencies of how
much money they are earning and determinations of whether they
more to some other person or agency ?? - NO, only CLASS II
- Do all parents face mandated regular increases (with no court
no regard to how much money they are earning) in the amounts
are forced to pay others? NO, only CLASS II parents.
- Do all parents face jail if they fail to provide a specified
financial support for their children?? NO, only CLASS II parents.
- Do all parents face forced withholding of financial support for children from a paycheck? - NO,
- Apart from IRS records, does the government care and keep tabs on where all parents
work? - NO,
only on CLASS II parents.
- Does the government pass special laws that allow its own
bureaucrats to bring charges and argue issues in its courts in
front of judges
against all parents? - NO, only against CLASS II parents.
- Does the government hire mammoth high tech and well funded and
private organizations to hunt down and enforce government
obligations against all parents? - NO, only against CLASS II
- Does the government utilize public money to post the names and
all parents on the Internet who have allegedly transgressed some
demand related to their children? NO, only for CLASS II parents.
- What percentage of the people in jails and prisons have had no
opportunity to present their case to a jury? VERY FEW - that is, except for
CLASS II parents.
- Does the government ever periodically review whether its
determination of the "best interests of the children" is working, or actually is
in their best interests?? NO, it only reviews issues related to the amount of
money it is suctioning from CLASS II parents. Neither the amount
of money any parent is willing to pay or able to pay has anything to do
with the "best interests of the children" as defined by the government's own criteria.
And on and on and on. It's an incredible snowballing effect, often
resulting in death of those forced into CLASS II, sometimes quickly and
violently, and sometimes slowly but prematurely, or death to others as a
result of the stress, humiliation, agony, and desperation associated with
forced CLASS II status. There are many other destructive societal effects, such as parents
who have "disappeared" or "vanished," or parents who are imprisoned without trial by jury rather
than helping their children develop into responsible, productive adults.
I have not seen any actual statistics (most likely because there are some
who would prefer that they not be known), but it appears that a very high
percentage of domestic related murders and suicides of children and parents
are related to situations where a parent was (or is in the process of
being) forced into CLASS II status. The situations and events vary, and
many are never explained (and some are never even known), but they often
occur after the parent's boiling or breaking point threshold has been
reached or surpassed on one or more occasions - sometimes resulting in a
volatile eruption of anger and rage (often lashing out at seemingly
intangible forces), and sometimes ending obscurely in the tears of
solitude. Some are related to the children of a CLASS II parent being
withheld from them while the government does nothing, or even assists, and
some are the result of the full realization of the futility of what has
happened to them, and the frustration with their helplessness to do
anything about it.
It seems to me that forcing parents into two distinct classes which
are then treated drastically different, while also subjecting one class to
additional special laws that apply only to them, and then hounding and
effectively clubbing them until the end of time (or until they self
destruct - often taking a few others along the way) is one of the most
odious and despicable forms of government known - with marked similarities
to those of Adolf Hitler and the Nazis - not to mention against the law.
However, I guess it's not surprising from a government that also secretly
ran radiation experiments, syphilis experiments, and psychedelic drug
experiments on its own citizens.
Maybe it's time to end this latest experiment too, and get the class
Copyright © 1998, 2005 Paul F. Goetz
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