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Off the Boat When?

by Paul Goetz

The misrepresentation of facts and partial truths being spread like a plague by government officials and mainstream media is somewhat amazing to me. Whatever happened to the WHOLE truth?

Imagine for a moment all the times in the past few years you've seen or heard something about how much money is allegedly or estimated to be owed in "child support." All those staggering numbers. But, where do they come from? And, what do they mean? What's the credibility of the reporting sources? And what are some of the related aspects?

I always thought that one mark of a shyster was their inability to supply the listener (their "mark") with any precise details to back up their claims. Why do you suppose all those figures we hear so much about are all based on vague generalized estimates and who knows what else? With the government's vast network of computers one would think they could come up with some FACTS, pure & simple.

Another interesting element is the mislabeling of something as that which it is not, for the dual purpose of emotionalism and chicanery. How anyone with an IQ in double figures can call the forceful extraction transfer of money, via government coercion, from one person to another, for unaccountable and unknown usage, "child support," is beyond me. "Child support" can be used to buy lottery tickets at convenience stores, dumped into machines at casinos, poured down throats in bars, injected directly into veins, and on and on. I heard of one case in which "child support" was used for breast implants. If you find a dollar bill on the street do you say, "Oh goody, a dollar in 'child support'"?

I wonder why we never read or hear about how many government "child support" checks are cashed at bars and casinos annually? Or how much "child support" is used for breast implants. How many lottery tickets do you suppose are purchased annually with "child support"? Minnesota even has an incredibly slick television and radio advertising campaign to induce people to gamble and buy lottery tickets. Aromatic Cinnamon Twist scratch off tickets are the latest. And, "I feel lucky..." is broadcast across the airwaves. I wonder if they get a kickback from the gambling counselors (besides the licensing fees and tax payments)?

The info about issues such as "child support" stem from the same source as the folks who use the airwaves to induce others to gamble, while raking in profits and collecting increased licensing fees from the rampant upsurge in "counselors" because of all the gambling related problems, including financial disaster and death. It's great for the economy. That gives them plusher office space, more perk money, etc, to go on vacations that they call "conferences" and "seminars." And think of the increased business for the morticians. Minnesota is recovery capital of the universe. I wonder how many parents have been induced by the government to spend money on lottery tickets rather than for their children? I don't recall any articles or estimates from all the beaugoise, mainstream media sources. If any of you feel "lucky," maybe you should take your "child support" checks to Minnesota and exchange them for lottery tickets.

Just think of all the other related financial aspects surrounding "child supports" you never read or hear about. Like the billions of dollars annually parents give to lawyers to look out for "the best interests" of their children, for which they receive no credit, of any sort. If all the nation's parents simply received credit for the money they gave to lawyers, in the name of the "best interests" of their children there might not be any so-called arrearages. Maybe there would even be a surplus.

Lawyers charge parents billions of dollars annually that could be used to support their kids, for which the parents receive no credit, and then buy fancy cars, support restaurants and bars, go on vacations, pay their country club dues, advertise in the yellow pages, and simply set up offshore trusts to protect their harvests.

If you would like some information on how lawyers shelter their assets offshore, especially from malpractice suits, just check out the January 1996 issue of "ABA Journal," p. 89. Barry Engel, president of the Offshore Institute and a law partner who assists other lawyers in sheltering assets offshore is quoted as saying, "I don't want someone to do to me what I do to people all day in court." That 's the mentality of the people who are determining "the best interests of the children."

And then, when it comes time to sue a lawyer for malpractice many of the members of the various bar associations have collectively decided to set a separate and distinct qualification standard - a nifty way to effectively make themselves and their friends "suit proof." There is one standard of qualification for allowing a lawyer to practice in the family courts and take money from parents and children. However, if a parent or child wants to sue a lawyer for malpractice - for botching up their life - it suddenly takes an "expert." A whole new standard is established. And of course an "expert" gets paid lots of money, in advance. No "expert," paid in advance - no liability, regardless of how egregious the conduct. That's just one of the ways in which lawyers and judges "suit proof" each other. In other words the American standard for looking out for "the best interests of the lawyer" far exceeds the standard for looking out the "best interests of the children." Sort of the definition of "America the Beautiful" in the 20th century.

You don't suppose one of reasons the nation's children are suffering is because of all the money parents have been forced to give lawyers that is now quietly nestled in some foreign land? I wonder how much money, collectively, lawyers who have taken money from parents have tucked away in the Cook Islands, the Isle of Mann, etc. I don't recall the mainstream media or any elected officials even making any estimates. I wonder why? I guess maybe some of the lawyers help them shelter their assets too. Tit for tat. Do you suppose that will be an issue in one of the nationally televised debates between Clinton & Dole? Maybe they're saving it. I don't recall Hillary even discussing that one yet. Maybe she's saving it for the debates, too. I know how much she cares about the nation's children.

It's my understanding that many of the lawyers practicing in the family courts, have taken few if any classes in family law at their schools, and have had to pass few if any questions on their bar exams in family law. Those are the people, who, after using the parents and children as guinea pigs, sit around and develop policy on family law. In Minnesota the bar associations have banded together, and agreed to refuse to tell parents about the educational qualifications of any attorney that they might be considering. Name, rank, and serial number is all they will divulge.

Why do you suppose none of the newspapers, or TV stations, or talk show hosts, or your elected officials ever tell you the qualifications of the people having the impact on the families and children of America? Are they paid to be silent? We've all been told over and over again what horrible abuses seethe in secrecy. Don't you think it's about time to start asking?

Historically the United States might well be known as the nation in which, while the state of the family was in shambles, the polices on family law were developed by self serving lawyers, judges, legislators, presidents, and administrators who were never educated in family law from the start, while the media sat by and picked their nose and helped pass the blame to others, all more interested in their off shore accounts.

That is, of course, unless the historians can also be fooled.

Copyright 1996-1997 Paul F. Goetz

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