Fathering Magazine for fathers, dads, family

NOTICE: This website is FOR SALE. Buy Now!

What's New
Beginners' Tour
True Stories
True Soap

New Fathers
The Joy of Fathering
Importance of Fathers
Fathers & Sons
Fathers & Daughters
Single Fathers
Second Wives -
   Second Families
Gender & Fathers
Custody & Divorce
Father Custody
Child Support
Cyber Bullying
Sex Bullies
Family Vacation
Father's Day
Mother's Day

Book Reviews
Fathering Poems
Fathering Fiction
Cooking Recipes
Science Fair Project
US Constitution

Female Offenders
Juvenile Offenders

Child Health
New Baby
Signs of Puberty
Car Hazards
Child Obesity
Teen Smoking
Teen Drinking

Men's Health
Hair Loss
Muse ED Review

Stephen Baskerville
Michael Childers
Kirk Daulerio
John Gill
Paul Goetz
Sam Harper
Jim Loose
Mark Phillips
Fred Reed
Carey Roberts
Glenn Sacks
Clyde Verner
Archie Wortham

Child Support Policy
Child Support Math
Commercial Justice
Abuse Hysteria
Missing Child Money
Gender Equality?

Legal Disclaimer

Fathering News
Check these stories:

Texas Fathers Win Again! Social workers and psychologists "incest cases" group gets foiled in court.

Therapist Loses License and One Million Dollars Another misandrist therapist gets caught selling sex fantasies to children. From the False Memory Syndrome Foundation News Letter

Supervised Parent/Child Contact An ideologue exposes her ugly compulsion to deny children's access to their father.

Study Finds Teen Pregnancy and Crime Levels are Higher Among Kids from Fatherless Homes Children reared in fatherless homes are more than twice as likely to become male adolescent delinquents or teen mothers, according to a significant new study by two economists at the University of California, Santa Barbara.

85% of Youths in Prison Grew Up in Fatherless Home Source: Texas Department of Corrections.

I Want to See My Dad! Staff of supervised visitation center demoralized by crowd of angry demonstrators.

America's Toughest Family Court Judge Speaks Out Judge says "The current biased system is run by reality-impaired ideologues."

How to Fight Sex Abuse Allegations and Win False Allegations Of Child Sexual Abuse: What You Should Know.

Child Support System Declared Unconstitutional Minnesota Supreme Court upholds ruling.

Of Statistics, Single Mothers and the Politics of Language Studies show that, overwhelmingly, children being raised in homes with both a mother and a father enjoy a lot of benefits that children from single parent homes do not.

Children in Single-Mom Households at Risk The fact that children raised by single mothers are at increased risk is found over and over again.

The Case for Father Custody Daniel Amneus makes the case for fathers getting custody of their children. "It is fatherhood which makes childhood possible."

New Single Father Suggestions Practical childcare tips for the man who has to go it alone.

Off the Boat When? Is 'child-support' just a euphemism for alimony?

Home > Importance of Fathers > Article
Home > Child Custody & Divorce > Article

Of Statistics, Single Mothers and the Politics of Language

by Trev Martin

Studies show that, overwhelmingly, children being raised in homes with both a mother and a father enjoy a lot of benefits that children from single parent homes do not. Yes, there may be a higher level of financial security, less dislocation and a shared workload of maintaining the home and parenting where there are two parents in the home. Moreover, studies have shown that the presence and involvement of fathers in the nurturing and development of their children confers benefits which are irreplaceable by any substitute, whether the substitute is the state, a grandparent, a male friend or a step-parent.

I have not studied statistics, but I know that when a correlation exists between two conditions, that in itself does not prove a causal relationship. Unfortunately, there are many in the general public who wrongly draw conclusions from statistical studies which do not allege any causal relationship. So, I have sympathy for any single mother who encounters criticism or feels under criticism for her condition of being a single mom as a result of the publication of the study.

In discussing the Statistics Canada study of 23,000 children and it's conclusions about the effect on the portion of those children of being raised by single moms, there is an implied suggestion that to ask the question is wrong (are children of single mothers more likely to have 'problems'), when you don't like the results. I think there is enough sticking of heads in the sand in this country, by not collecting statistics on subjects some might deem politically incorrect. Information has the ability to clarify issues for us and provoke us to re-think our positions.

As an activist with the Fathers Rights Action Group, one of the issues to which I am addressed is moms who unreasonably deny their children access to their fathers, denying them that portion of the benefits of fatherhood which fathers can still confer, by remaining in an effective parenting role after the separation of mom and dad. On a personal level, I am equally addressed to the issue of fathers who neglect their parental obligations to their children both before and after separation. Both situations result in the children needlessly being deprived of a fathers love and care.

Around me, I see both sides of the issue. I have been unreasonably denied access to my children by their mother and this grieves my heart terribly. I know of many fathers in this situation, hence my efforts with the Group. But, I also know many single moms who struggle valiantly, against the odds, to give their children the best start on life that they can, while the fathers of those children are irresponsible, by failing to stay involved in their children's lives and by not continuing their parenting role.

There is a problem and it raises many questions. How can we support family life, so that the maximum number of children are brought up in a home with their father and mother? How can we educate society as to the extra dangers facing children brought up in single-parent homes? How can we better deal with access issues, after a separation, so that fathers can remain involved with their children? How can we educate (some) moms not to denigrate and negate the fathers' role in their children's life? How can we educate (some) fathers to take their fatherhood responsibilities more seriously?

Back to Children in Single-Mom Households "at Risk"

Copyright © 1996,

The on-line magazine for men with families.

The Secret Alimony Hidden in Child Support Scientific proof exists that many child support awards are too high. By Roger F. Gay.

Fathers' Rights Are Fathers' Duties Why political action is the best thing you can do for yourself, your case -- and above all your children. By Stephen Baskerville.

Domestic Armageddon Who profits from the maternal child-snatching epidemic? Two book reviews by Stephen Baskerville.

Just Let Me Be a Dad A review of Michelle D. Lovato's book of practical advice for divorcing fathers.

Men Are Beasts Whereas false accusations by women are in fact rare, occurring no more often than do other false reports of crimes, such as bank robbery -- Joint Congressional Resolution 182.

Class Dismissed Has America created a new class of citizens who are excluded from constitutional provisions regarding due process and debtors prison?

Father from Afar Fathers from afar must learn how to hear what is not said, feel what is not seen, and say what should be said.

Let No Man Put Asunder Is our traditional faith in justice being eroded by courts that operate as a child kidnapping and extortion racket?

Angels and Divorce Dean Hughson tells how a couple of angels helped save him in those critical hours following his divorce.

Gender Bias in Family Court A paralegal gives her insider's view of women who make use of the child kidnapping and extortion racketeers in our justice system.

In the Best Interest of the Child Today's fathers are more likely to seek custody. Many of them will need to prepare for a child custody evaluation.

Mother Accuses Father of Child Abuse What to do? Win! Advice from The Fathering Advisor with links to resources.

What Fathers Do Jack Kammer's story shows us how fathers affect the lives of teenage boys.

Deserted Her mother said "Your father left you because he doesn't love you." Now she has learned the truth--her loving father was forced out of her life.

Matriarchy Marked by Tribalism and Violence Feminism reigns when men don't claim their children.

Deceptions of a Gender Equal Society All present and past human societies are patriarchal, in spite of the many feminist lies and half-truths invented to obscure this.