Divorce Restraining Order
Seven reasons divorcing fathers should expect to get served
by Ron Lasorsa
A restraining order is issued in America every 32 seconds. If you're a
father going through divorce, believe it or not, a restraining order or a
false protection order against you is most likely in your future. If
you are hit with a restraining order, you could lose your freedom, access to
your children and your money without even knowing that it was
How do I know this?
It happened to my
father -- My parents got divorced when I was two years old. Out of revenge
my mom intentionally kept my dad out of my life. I never knew my own father.
He missed me growing up. I am sure this sad fact influences my actions to
And, most recently it happened to
When my ex-wife served me with a fraudulent protection
order, it was as if I was attacked while blindfolded with my hands tied
behind my back. I didn't see it coming and when I was hit with a
divorce and a restraining order that prevented me from seeing my children –
I felt helpless.
So, why would my Ex do such a despicable thing
to me and our children you might ask?
Seven Reasons Why
Fathers Going Through Divorce Should Prepare for Getting Served with a
1. Your ex will want to end
the relationship and come out as much of a "winner" as the law will allow
(and believe me, it will allow a LOT!) I'm sorry to say it
but our legal system is often manipulated in favor of women. If the
husband was an actual abuser in any way, then yes, a restraining order
should be served. If he actually committed a crime then he should be
criminally charged and the kids taken away from him immediately.
Unfortunately, this isn't always the case and many innocent fathers are
faced with fraudulent protection orders or restraining orders and dragged
needlessly through the court system.
2. Your ex
and her lawyer will want to gain an advantage in a divorce. Many
immoral divorce lawyers routinely advise women to get a restraining order so
they can win custody, higher alimony and much more. That is exactly
what my ex's lawyer did to me.
3. Your ex will want to
quickly get custody of your children without a hearing. Yes,
this is possible! Moreover, your ex-wife can actually have a secret hearing
that you are NOT even allowed to attend.
Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) provides Federal funding for the States
to set up "professional victims" groups, whose sole purpose is to
discriminate against men and perpetuate the stereotype that men are
abusers. That's even if we are good, innocent dads in a bad
marriage. This act financially incentivizes the "Divorce Industry" to take
unnecessary actions against innocent fathers.
ex will simply watch you suffer because she's angry. I went
through nearly 2 years of restraining order hell because my ex was simply
angry with me. Because of this, I was continually subjected to
criminal prosecution. My ex actually went so far as to tell all of my
children that I did not want to see them even though I was prevented from
doing so by the restraining order. It took me four court hearings
just to re-establish visitation with them while all that time my ex was
telling them that I just did not want to see them. To this day,
despite everything I have done to get them back in my life, I am sure they
still believe her lies to a certain extent.
6. Your ex
will want to control and manipulate you. Many ex-wives want you to beg
for their mercy. As a caring father you don't want to be kept
out of your children's lives. You don't want to miss their basketball games,
softball games, martial arts competitions and dance recitals. You don't want
to miss their birthday parties and their graduations. You don't want to miss
watching your children grow up. Your children that you dearly love, your financial
independence and your freedom -- your ex can hang it all over your head to get whatever she wants from
you if you don't educate yourself.
7. Your ex will want to stop you from modifying
custody after your child expresses a desire to live with you.
To make sure my children felt unloved by me my wife didn't let me buy them
any gifts. She never answered my phone calls. I was threatened not to show
up when my son was very sick and in the hospital even though he asked for me
to be there at his side. And, she told them lies about me. My oldest son
didn't speak to me for 11 months because of her lies.
just seven out of thousands of motives that women have to get a restraining
order against innocent fathers. Now I wrote this article for one
reason – and only reason only. I want to prepare to you for the
inevitable. I didn't think it would happen to me – yet it did and
because I was unprepared, I went through 20 months of restraining order
I don't want that to happen to you, I encourage
you to get my FREE eBook: "Root of All Evil Part 1: How the Divorce Industry
Steals Kids Away From Innocent Dads" Get it now at: http://www.RestrainingOrder911.com
Here's to protecting yourself and your children
About the Author:
Kids Come First Coalition Founder Ron Lasorsa is an
innocent father who went through 20 long months of restraining order
hell. After almost losing his children and spending nearly $200,000 in
legal fees, Ron now teaches innocent dads going through divorce how to beat
a fraudulent restraining order. You can get his free eBook: Root of All
Evil Part 1: How the Divorce Industry Steals Kids Away From Innocent Dads"
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